Why is it so hard to take a compliment? Friday night when we rolled into Traer we stopped out at the golf course to see some old family friends and have a couple drinks. One of my best friends’ mom said to me, “Natalie, you look great! Are you getting skinnier?” My response? “Oh my gosh no way! I’m getting fatter, ehhh!”
Then Saturday we hung out with another family friend who mentioned, “Nat! Look at those fancy boots! I like em!” Again, my response was less than gracious. “These?? No, they are cheapies….they aren’t nice!”
No sooner were the words out of my mouth when my mom, rightly so said, “You aren’t supposed to tell them that! Just say thank you!”
What a concept…just say thank you. Every time someone compliments a new shirt, I tell them how cheap it was or what a good deal I got on it. Someone says they like my hair? I say ewww I need to get it cut! You liked those cookies I brought to work? I just threw them together, they’re soooooo easy!
But, why can’t I just smile and say thank you? Coworkers and I have talked about it before, too…how hard it is to take a compliment. Its a woman thing I think….we are terrible at accepting compliments, but yet we love getting them! Next time G or a coworker complements how I look, or a piece of my clothing, or anything, my goal will be to refrain myself from deflecting the positive statement and just say thank you.
Anyone else have trouble taking compliments? Any ideas on how I can overcome the uncomfort of just saying thanks?